By Christian Carter, author of best-selling eBook Catch Him & Keep Him and free newsletter
If you want to win the right man's heart, you need to know what it
is that makes a man go from just feeling casual about dating you to wanting and
needing you on a deeper level. I'm going to take you inside a man's mind you so you
understand what it takes to trigger this kind of connection.
And I'm talking about a real man - one who is mature and grounded on a physical,
mental, emotional, and spiritual level. They are on a great path and open to
growing on a deeply personal level. I'm betting that's exactly why you're on this
site: to find a quality kind of guy - a real man looking for a real
So what does a mature, REAL man want in a woman?
#1) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Playful
There's something that drives men wild and invites them into a deeper level of
"connection" - play.
Men love to be active and to play. They were raised to express themselves and
connect with those around them through action.
Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget this and want to talk their way into a
man's heart. But the fact is that men don't "feel it" for you because of what you
say. It's not your words that make a man attracted to you, it's the experiences you
create with him.
Watch or play sports together, be competitive in casual games like ping pong - even
add a little teasing and sarcasm here and there - and you'll really ramp up the
attraction and interest.
#2) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Independent
Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are looking for a "weaker" woman who will
make them feel like they are smarter and more powerful.
Nothing could be farther from the truth.
Real men want a woman who inspires them because she has great things going on her
own life. They want a woman who has her own purpose other than being in a
A great guy isn't intimidated by independence and success. What matters to a man is
that a woman still has space in her life for a great relationship and is grounded
and present when she's with him.
The best way to communicate this to a man is to stay busy in your own life and not
suddenly make him your world. Don't drop your own interests, responsibilities, and
friends just to be with him. And then, when you are with him, really BE with him -
have fun and give your attention to him and what you're doing together.
#3) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Emotionally Mature
If a man feels attracted to a woman, eventually there's going to be a situation
that comes up where you and a man will see something differently and misunderstand
How will you respond to this and share your feelings?
A woman who has the maturity to not blame or criticize a man for what she's
feeling, but to share her feelings in an honest and authentic way that helps a man
better understand her will be attractive to a man. How a woman handles her emotions
is one of the most important things men look for when deciding whether or not to
get serious with a woman. If she lets her emotions get out of control, this is a
big red flag to him.
On the other hand, if she can present her feelings to him in a calm, non-dramatic
manner, she will win his respect and make him feel like she's the kind of woman who
will be a real partner to him. He'll see that she can handle things with a cool
head rather than becoming a damsel in distress he has to rescue.
#4) A Real Man Wants A Woman He's Intensely Attracted To
Fact: Men aren't as scared of commitment and relationships as they are scared of
being in a relationship with a woman where there is no passion and attraction.
A common way women accidentally kill the attraction men might be feeling is by
either trying too hard to get him to like you, or by acting like the relationship
is too serious too soon.
Relax and let things happen naturally. Make sure you do and say things that
interject fun and humor into your relationship from the very start. There's nothing
more appealing to a man than a great woman who knows how to relax and have fun.
You can do this through playful teasing, flirting, humor, and being unpredictable
(in a good way). For instance, instead of talking about what he does for a living
when you meet him (yawn), ask him about what sports he plays and what drives him.
Once you're in a relationship, don't be afraid to shake things up. If you normally
go to brunch on Sundays, suggest something completely different like a bike ride
and a picnic. Mixing things up keeps the relationship fun for both of you, and
being a woman who is open to new experiences is very attractive to him.
There are specific characteristics that make a man see you as a woman he wants to
get to know on a deeper level. To learn more about what makes a man feel intensely
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