Let's face it - you never get a second chance to make a first impression!
That's why, if you want to take things further with a woman, you need to show
her your best on the very first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things that
men consistently do on first dates that totally destroy their chances of seeing the
woman again, and the worst part is they think they're doing it right!
Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your chances of success on your first
Mistake #1: Buying gifts - Bringing chocolate or flowers on a
first date isn't the best idea - especially if you've just met the woman! She's
there to get to know YOU. Women are always asking themselves "what does THAT mean?"
And in this case it's, "He bought me flowers because he likes me, but he doesn't
even know anything about me yet! A little suspicious.
Mistake #2: Being Mr. Serious - When in the presence of a
potential date, men often become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly vibe
they have with their friends. They won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman, they
won’t play around like they do with their friends and they generally take things a
little too seriously. Why do men change their behavior around women, often without
even realizing they’re doing it? Because they fear losing their only chance with
the girl of their dreams, they try and play the safe side, which results in a “Mr.
Mistake #3: Conducting an Interview - When men become "Mr.
Serious" they often fall into "job interview conversation mode." Make sure you
reserve questions like, "So where do you work?" or "How many brothers and sisters
do you have?" for the future, after you've already had a lot of fun and made the
sparks fly. Instead, talk about your hobbies, interesting stories and fun stuff.
Avoid anything too deep for a long period of time. On a first date, it can make
things a little depressing. Talk like you've known each other for years (as if you
don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions quiz.) Of course you can ask basic
questions, but never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on fun.
Mistake #4: Being too needy and direct - Without realizing it,
many guys turn their dates off by trying a little too hard. For example: Men will
lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask, "so do you like me?" or constantly
change his opinion to seek her approval and make her like him. Big mistake.
Ironically, it's leaning back, staying cool and calm, being a little cheeky,
interesting, mysterious and comfortable with yourself that actually gets a woman's
attention and keeps her interested.
Mistake #5: Going to boring places - If your date finds the
night boring, you're finished. When it comes to having fun on first dates, nothing
is more important than what you do. And while dinners and movies are nice, it's
really hard to leave a great impression in these settings. Why? Because they set a
very "proper tone" that's hard to turn into fun and playful. And unless you're a
super funny, intelligent and interesting guy, dinner and movie dates just aren't
the best place to take your date. Instead, go to fun places like mini-golf parks,
carnivals, parks, or even better, come up with your own unique and fun ideas.
So in essence, while there are many factors to having a successful date, a great
date idea really helps you do many of them naturally! Remember, where you take a
woman on a first date can be the difference between a great night and a dating
disaster! Choose wisely!
About the author: Oprah Expert Michael Webb is the author of
300 Creative Dates, a book jam-packed with unique ways to help leave a
great first impression without breaking the bank! To learn more, visit the
Creative Date Ideas