Did you know that a man once hospitalized his girlfriend trying to propose
It’s true! He slipped the engagement ring into her shot glass and as
they toasted to his speech, she swallowed it! Now, she survived, but they did
need a trip to the emergency room.
In fact, it's ‘embarrassing yet funny’ proposals like these that
remind me of the 5 ways that guys totally DESTROY this precious moment for women
by making horrendous mistakes. Please don’t make these mistakes…
1. Creating a Public Spectacle
Whether it's a party, family get-together or Yankee game, realize that you
should never propose to your beloved if she wouldn't feel comfortable with a
public proposal. Not only may it embarrass her, but she may feel pressured to
say "Yes," only to tell you the truth later. Bottom line, think about
what sort of person your lady is: Is she shy, cautious or a little reserved?
Then maybe a private proposal is the better way to go.
2. Overdoing the proposal
Some men's idea of an amazing proposal is slapping together all the “usual”
romantic things into one big event and calling it a "marriage proposal."
Sadly, this couldn't be further from the truth. For example: A man serves the
candlelit dinner, presents her flowers, chocolates, a teddy bear and then proposes
Yuck. I'm sorry, but if you believe your lady deserves the most magnificent
experience of her life, then understand that normal "everyday romance"
is only good for… everyday romance! – not a proposal. She’ll
never admit it, but she'll most likely be disappointed.
3. Being unprepared
You usually only get one shot at your proposal so you MUST get it right! No
pressure :D. Always rehearse through the things that could go wrong, create
backup plans and please make sure your proposal idea is safe! If you’re
creating a more elaborate proposal, you’ll need extra caution. Physically
rehearse through the situations, discover what could go wrong and work out solutions
around them. Get your friends together and brainstorm the sticky situations
that could come up on the day. Of course, life is unpredictable and things may
change but be prepared the best you can.
4. Spending too much money
Hang on! You’re probably wondering, “How is spending TOO MUCH money
on a proposal a problem?” Well it all depends. The problem with money
is that it often becomes a substitute for creativity. As a result, you get a
"nice" memorable proposal but nothing that's “jaw-dropping!”
5. Using a "done to death" proposal idea
Now here’s the biggest mistake of them all. Yes, coming up with creative
and original ideas to propose is tough, but it's a must if you want your moment
to be remembered and talked about for years to come!
Your proposal needs to be personalized to your girlfriend. What are her favorite
hobbies, music and interests? These are the starting points to an incredible
proposal that everyone will talk about for years.
While the Eiffel tower, hot air balloons and getting the waiter to bring out
the ring on a platter are "okay" ideas, they’re not creative
and original enough for the most important and memorable moment of both your
About the author:
Michael Webb is the author of “The Romantic’s Guide To Popping
The Question,” a book filled with 101 Creative and Unique Marriage Proposals,
hand-picked as award-winning stories from a total of 7,329 entries in his worldwide
competition. To learn more, visit the marriage
proposal ideas website