When it comes to dating, those who are newly single need all the tips they can get. If you have become single, then check out our top dating tips below:
No Bringing Up Exes
We get it, you’re newly single and the chances are you have recently gone through a breakup. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to vent about your ex, but you definitely don’t want to discuss your ex with anyone you are dating.
The above is especially if you are just getting to know a person. By living in the past, the people you meet will automatically think you’re not ready to move on.
One bad habit to break is to not talk about your ex right after your date has mentioned something that reminded you of them. Many people do this without even realizing it or they realize it when it’s too late.
Regardless if your date asks or doesn’t ask about your recent relationship, do your best to not bring it up. One of the quickest ways to ruin a date or to ensure a strong foundation won’t form is to constantly talk about your recent ex.
Use Several Sites To Meet People
The logic behind using multiple websites to find dates is simple; The more sites you actively use, the more of a chance you have of finding dates to go on.
More importantly, you’ll likely find someone you really click with and can develop a strong connection with. As a general rule of thumb, focus on using at least 3-4 websites.
Signup for two dating websites and use Facebook to connect with people who might be interested in dating you. Facebook has plenty of groups, as well as a dating app you can use from within the platform.
The two dating sites you join should be free and have a large user-base. Plenty of Fish is one of the dating sites you should join because it is free and it’s very beginner-friendly.
As a newly single, you want to make it as easy as possible to find potential matches. This is why you need to do the above.
There’s an old saying that positive people attracts positive people, which is true in the dating world. No matter what, you should get yourself into a positive mood before you go out on a date.
Here’s a tip: laugh, smile and think happy thoughts before meeting your date. Another way to uplift your mood is to listen to upbeat music. When you meet your date, they’ll notice just how positive you are.
A lot of newly single people tend to have negative attitudes, even if they aren’t aware of it. Be more aware of how you’re acting when you’re on a date or meeting people.
If you’ve been hurt in your past relationship or if it was a mutual breakup, you might be harboring a few negative thoughts. Do not let those negative thoughts creep in while you’re trying to meet new people.
Newly singles need to be picky. You don’t want to make the mistake of going on dates with just anyone. Take your time to speak to people and only go on dates with people that you actually want to. Never go out with someone just because you’re bored.
On that note, try to find people that meet your standards and criteria. Make a mental note of your “type” and then only go out with those types of people. It’s commonsense advice, but believe us when we say it works.
Don’t Commit To A Serious Relationship
Another thing you don’t want to do is commit to a serious relationship right after meeting someone or start discussing lifelong relationship plans with someone you’ve just started to date or speaking to online.
Way too many newly singles are eager to fall in love again, but committing to a serious relationship too quickly is a recipe for disaster.
Even if the person you’re starting to date hints around wanting to make things “official”, it’s best to take things as slow as possible. This will allow a real and deep connection to develop.
Take Time For Yourself
How newly single are you? If you have just gotten out of a relationship within the last month, then it’s too soon to start dating. The wounds and the breakup is too fresh. This is regardless of who ended things.
We suggest taking time for yourself. As a general rule of thumb, give yourself a good three months before you start getting out there and dating people. This is enough time to heal and to get your head on straight.
If necessary, take more than three months. Also, during that time do not speak to your ex, unless you absolutely have to. Trust us when we say taking time for yourself will improve your dating experience.
Arrange Dates & Keep Things Basic
Arrange dates with people, but keep things as basic as possible. As a newly single, you might be tempted to go all-out on a first or second date. Do not spend a ton of money at the top restaurant in town and do not arrange an extravagant date.
Instead, simply arrange to meet at a breakfast spot or go somewhere for coffee. The first date is to get to know a person a little bit.
No Getting Obsessed
Don’t overdo it with the emailing, texting and calling. If the person you’re starting to date doesn’t reply to you right away, don’t stress out. Simply sit back and wait until you get a reply.
We know of so many people ruining what could have been a good thing due to becoming obsessed with someone they have just started to see. In many cases, it’s the newly singles who exhibit this behavior.
If you feel yourself becoming to clingy with someone, then keep yourself busy with other activities.
Those are the top dating tips newly singles should keep in mind. If you’re serious about having successful dating experiences, then make sure you remember our advice.